บทความน่าสนใจ : How to have a happy life
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This Is How To Have A Happy Life: 4 Proven Secrets From Research
Sometimes just being happy is hard enough. Figuring out how to have a happy life can seem downright overwhelming.
In his book, Authentic Happiness, University of Pennsylvania professor Martin Seligman (the Big Kahuna of happiness research) says that there are four types of happy lives.
That’s right — not only do we have a blueprint for what makes a happy life, you even get four choices. That doesn’t mean they’re all created equal. As you move down the list, the lives get better — but more challenging. The first three all have big strengths — and big weaknesses.
And then there’s #4 (music swells): The Full Life. It’s got it all — but, of course, it’s the trickiest to achieve.
Ready for a happy life that works for you? Let’s break the 4 down, see which blueprint suits your needs, and find out what life is like for the happiest people on the planet.
Alrighty, so what’s behind door #1?
Happy Life #1: “The Pleasant Life”
The goal is life as one long vacation. You want as many positive feelings and bodily pleasures as you can. Tasty food, good beer, smiles, massages, and laughs. No regrets, no worries, and a head full of positive thoughts.
From Authentic Happiness:
The pleasant life: a life that successfully pursues the positive emotions about the present, past and future.
So let’s say this is your ideal life. How do you get there? Researchers call it “Pleasant activity training” but I call it “things that feel good, do them more often.”
Yes, it sounds stupidly simple but don’t gloss over it, internet skimmer. Research shows that often you don’t actually do what you enjoy the most — you do what is easiest. You might love going to the beach, but TV is quicker. If you want The Pleasant Life, make more time for the things that give you the mostpleasure.
And for Pete’s sake, schedule pleasurable things. If awful stuff like dental appointments get a spot on your calendar, so should awesome things. (I enjoy seeing my friends. So I don’t “see’em when I see’em” I have lunch with them every Friday at 1PM, like clockwork. And “Burger Night” is every Monday at 5PM. Dinner with Jason and Lisa is every Sunday night. Nick and I go for a walk and discuss interesting things every Tuesday night. I’m sure you’re fascinated by my social schedule, but the point is, with a little planning, you can make fun the default.)
Now as enjoyable as The Pleasant Life sounds, it’s the least happy of the four. Why?
If you’ve ever stared at the ceiling at 2AM and said, “What am I doing with my life?”, well, The Pleasant Life can’t help you with that. All it can offer you is yet another funny YouTube video of a dog on a skateboard.
(To learn the 4 rituals that neuroscience says will make you happy, click here.)
Alright, so The Pleasant Life is very pleasant… but not much more. Maybe that works for you, maybe not. So what’s a happy life that’s more engaging — and exciting?
Happy Life #2: “The Good Life”
The vast majority of the people you admire did not aspire toward The Pleasant Life. Most athletes, entrepreneurs, musicians and anyone who’s an expert in their field probably sought what Seligman calls “The Good Life.”
What’s that? Actively doing stuff you’re good at and getting lost in it. Trying to improve your skills. Accomplishing goals.
From Authentic Happiness:
The good life: using your signature strengths to obtain abundant gratification in the main realms of your life.
While The Pleasant Life is all about feeling, The Good Life is focused on doing.
This life means figuring out your “signature strengths” — stuff you’re uniquely good at — and trying to achieve “flow” as much as possible. Flow is when you’re working at something and you’re in the zone, not noticing the passage of time because you’re caught up in the activity. Don’t underestimate how happy doing stuff you’re good at can make you:
The more hours per day adults believe they use their strengths, the more likely they are to report having ample energy, feeling well-rested, being happy, smiling or laughing a lot, learning something interesting, and being treated with respect.
Seligman says The Good Life tops The Pleasant Life because using your signature strengths is more lasting. Pleasure is fleeting while developing skills and achieving goals creates a more profound sense of enjoyment. Using your strengths daily can make you significantly happier for months.
Via The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work:
When 577 volunteers were encouraged to pick one of their signature strengths and use it in a new way each day for a week, they became significantly happier and less depressed than control groups. And these benefits lasted: Even after the experiment was over, their levels of happiness remained heightened a full month later.
So how do you create The Good Life? Again, look to your calendar. Instead of spending more time doing stuff that feels good, spend more time using your signature strengths and being in flow.
Are you a natural people person? Ask your boss if you can handle new clients instead of paperwork. Get a kick out of working with numbers? Ask your partner to clean the house and you’ll handle the budget and do the taxes.
Or spend hours upon hours writing research-backed blog posts. (That produces flow for at least one person I can think of.)
Does The Good Life sound like work? It is. It’s definitely not passive. If the only thing that brings you flow is watching Seinfeld reruns while eating pizza, then The Pleasant Life might be a better choice for you. And if The Good Life is taken too